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Sexualized Emotions: Can Someone Sexualize Their Own Emotions?

Sunday, September 24th, 2017

At times, someone can mistake thirst for hunger, and there are a number of reasons as to why this tales place. As a result of this, one can end up eating when they are not even hungry.

The Outcome

If one finds it easy to gain weight, and this was to happen on a regular basis, they could end up carrying more weight than they need to. What this then means is that a small problem will have turned into a big problem.

Still, one may exercise on a regular basis, and this may make it easier for them to lose the access weight that they are carrying. Then again, one could be in a position where they don’t go to the gym or they might just find it hard to lose weight, it is then going to be a different story.

Just One Example

This is, of course, just one of the ways in which one can mistake one thing for something else. One could feel lonely and empty, for instance, and after spending time with someone who treats them well, they could come to believe that they are in love.

How they feel when they are around this person and what takes place in their mind when they are not with them will play a big part in this. Through meeting them, it will have allowed them to feel better about themselves.

Time Goes On

However, as time passes one may find that they no longer feel the same way about them. This could be a time when they will find it hard to understand why they no longer feel the same.

Alternatively, one might start to realise that it wasn’t love that brought them together; it was the pain that was within them. Ultimately, the other person just allowed them to run away from their own pain.

The Real Reason

Through being with this person, it has allowed them to feel different, and this is why they were drawn to the other person. The other person would have believed that one loved them, when in reality; it was just that one loved how they felt in their presence.

Due to how low they felt in the beginning, it wouldn’t have been hard for them to fall for someone who showed them affection. One was needy, and so they needed someone to fill the hole that was within them.

Another Example

If one felt sexually aroused, it would be normal for them to come to the conclusion that this shows that they need to have sex or to masturbate. Therefore, there is going to be no reason for them to take step back and to look into why they are having this experience.

What is also going to play a part here is that the western world is more sexually liberated than it used to be. So, one can pay attention to how they feel and then they can take the next step.

From Here

There are likely to be a number of factors that will define what one will do to experience the pleasure that they desire. If they are in a relationship, they may have to wait until their partner is available.

But even if they are with someone, it doesn’t mean that they will wait until they next see them. What they could do is relieve themselves through masturbating, or they could find someone else to take care of their sexual needs.

The Modern Day World

If they are single, on the other hand, they could just end up masturbating. But if they use online dating, for instance, this could mean that they will look for someone who can come and help them out.

It wouldn’t be accurate to say that it will be just as easy for a man to do this as it will be for a woman, though. As long as a woman is reasonably attractive, she will probably be able to find a guy to have sex with whenever she wants.

One Outlook

When one spends a lot of time feeling sexually aroused, they can come to believe that this shows that they have high sex drive. This is just part of who they are, and the only thing they can do is to fulfil this need as and when they can.

There is the chance that this is the truth, and there is then no reason for one to take a deeper look into why they are experiencing life in this way. If they were to take a deeper look, what they could find is that feeling sexually aroused is often a way for them to avoid how they feel.

Mistaking One Thing for Another

However, this could be something that takes place so fast that it stops them from being able to realise this. If they were to just be with what is taking place within them and didn’t try to do anything, they could end up experiencing a lot of pain.

They could feel angry, powerless and even worthless, and this can show that they are carrying trauma. Having sex or masturbating is then going to be a way for them to keep their true feelings at bay.

A Closer Look

The pain that they are carrying could relate to what they have experienced during their adult life and/or it could go back to what happened when they were younger. When they were younger, they may have been abused and/or neglected.


If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist or a healer.

Relationships: What Can Happen When A Woman Rejects Her Feminine Side?

Sunday, September 24th, 2017

Men and woman look different, but that doesn’t mean that they haven’t got anything in common. First and foremost, they are human beings; thus, despite their differences, they have a lot in common.

A Closer Look

Due to how they look, it could be said that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine. Yet, while this can appear to be the case, it is not this black and white.

So, regardless of whether someone is a man or a woman, it doesn’t mean that they will always act in a certain way. There are going to be moments when both of them will takes on attributes that are associated with the opposite sex.

A Bit of Both

What this comes down to is that both men and women have the masculine and the feminine within them. Therefore, a man could behave in a certain way and be seen as going against their true nature, and the same could be said if a woman was to behave in a certain way.

However, what it can show is that the man/woman is just expressing the other side of their nature. At the same time, this doesn’t mean that every man and woman on the planet have half of one aspect and half of the other.

A Grey Area

There are going to be men who are more masculine than feminine and vice versa, and women who are the same. And there can even be men and woman who are only in touch with one side of their nature.

As a result of this, they are going to be completely out of balance, and this is likely to have an effect on every area of their life. If a man was only in touch with his masculine side, there are likely to be people who will criticise his behaviour, and the same could be said if he was only in touch with his feminine side.

Part of Life

And if a woman was only in touch with her feminine side, there are likely to be people who will criticise her. But if she was only in touch with her masculine side, it is unlikely to be any different.

Even if a man or a woman was fairly balanced, it doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t be criticised by others. At the end of the day, there are always going to be people who have something to say.

In Theory

Still, one way of looking at all this would be to say that men are likely to have a stronger masculine than feminine side, and women are more likely to have a stronger feminine than masculine side. This comes down to evolution, and how it has been necessary for men and women to behave in certain ways for so long.

But even though a man can have a stronger masculine side, it doesn’t mean that this will have an effect on how he behaves. The reason for this is that he can end up rejecting this side of his nature.

The Outcome

If this takes place, he can and up coming across as passive, and he might be used to being walked over by others. This is someone who is not going to be a leader; they are going to be a follower.

It is then going to be difficult for him to fulfil his needs, and he could have the tendency to feel depressed. Other people might not respect him, and he might find it hard to respect himself.

Another Experience

And even though a woman can have a stronger feminine side, it doesn’t mean that this will have an effect on how she behaves. This comes down to the fact that she can end up rejecting this part of her nature.

Consequently, this can give her the need to always be in control, which is going to make it hard for her to relax. Her need to look strong can take over and this can stop her from being able to express how she feels.

The Harder Emotions

If she does show how she feels, it could be because she is angry about something that has happened to her. Through being this way, it can mean that she will find it hard to experience intimacy.

But if she does end up in a relationship with a man, she is likely to find that the man is extremely submissive. On one level, this might please her, but at a deeper level, it could repel her.


The strongest part of her will have had the desire to be with a man who wouldn’t challenge her and even though she has what she wanted; it will be as if she has been let down. Whereas the weakest part of her may have the need to be with a man who will stand his ground.

What this can show is that she doesn’t feel as though it is safe for her to be vulnerable, and this is why she is out of balance. And as she has rejected her feminine side, it can cause her to be critical of the women who have embraced theirs.

A Mirror

As far as she is concerned, these women could be seen as being weak, and this can mean that she will see herself as being superior to these women. If she was able to take a step back, she may find that these women remind her of what she has rejected within herself.

Deep down she will have the desire to embrace this side, but that will be as far as it will go; that is unless she is able to look into what is taking place within her and to change it. If she is able to look in what is taking place, she may find that what happened when she was younger is still defining her life.

A Deeper Look

This may have been a time when she was abused and/or neglected, and this would have caused her to believe that it wasn’t safe for her to be vulnerable, amongst other things. Perhaps her father was the one who abused her, or it might have been her mother.

There is also the chance that both of them played a part, and there may have been other people around at the time who were just as abusive. Ultimately, this was a time when she didn’t receive what she needed to receive in order to develop in the right way.


If a woman can relate to this, and she wants to change her life, it might be a good idea for her to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer.